Thursday, July 16, 2009

Some clarification

Some things to keep in mind about me going on this trip:

While it is a 7 hour drive, I have driven it COUNTLESS times and could probably even do it blindfolded (although other drivers may not appreciate that much) ;-)

My doctor has okay'd me to go- medically speaking there is nothing wrong with me and there is no reason I CAN'T go

I haven't seen my family in MONTHS. Which, for me, is really hard. I have a very close relationship with my mom, dad and each of siblings and I HATE living so far away from all of them.

Batman, while not thrilled I'll be driving so far alone, has okay'd this one last trip by myself. We discussed his fears regarding my safety and have come to a mutual agreement on my travel plans.

Kino will be in the back seat keeping me company.

There is only one stretch with sketchy cell service and it's only about 30 miles.

I have more than a couple friends that live along the route I am taking that I could call if there is any issues.

Driving, for me, is extrememly theraputic. Always has been. Even when I was in high school, if things were bothering me or I just needed to wind down a bit, I would go for long drives.

Now all that said- according to certain people in my life, I am being completely irresponsible and stupid by going. Now that I am pregnant. Because pregnancy apparently = disabled and unsafe.

If I remember correctly, and I assure you I DO, a certain person's exact word to me "dumbshit." All over a lovely dinner. At IHOP.

If you hadn't guessed yet, these "certain people" were my IL. Isn't that just lovely?

Oh and did I tell you Batman and his dad are going rafting this weekend? Because I assure you, THAT'S that safest recreation HE could be doing.

All that said- Batman did talk to both his mom and dad. And both of them, while still unhappy that I'm going (MIL always is regardless of if I'm preggo or not- but that's a story for another day), I believe they realize that their comments were rude, uncalled for and out of line. Oh and that non of this was their business to begin with.

Supposedly said FIL will be calling me later today to apologize.


Marie said...

I am glad you have decided to go. It will probably do you good. I do not travel well anyway and noticed that my swelling was pretty bad after a 4 hour trip last week. I would recommend stopping a lot to walk around.

Have fun!!!!

Melissa said...

Enjoy your trip! You'll be absolutely okay. And once your little girl arrives, it will probably be a while before you can travel long distances again... so enjoy the freedom now while you can! ;-)

Happily Married said...

I completely understand why you want to make the trip & am glad you & Batman have come to an agreement on what will be most comfortable for both of you.

Good luck with the ILs, but MOST importantly - have FUN!!!!!

Amy said...

You know your body well enough to know if the trip is safe for you or not. And I'm sure if you had any doubts you wouldn't go. Tell everyone to MYOB! Do what you feel is right and enjoy yourself. I happen to agree with you and love driving. It is my favorite way to relax and relieve stress. I once drove 4 hours to California and 4 hours back in the same day because I was stresses and just felt like driving. Enjoy your road trip. Make sure to take lots of potty breaks and bring lots of drinks and snacks.

proudnavywife1027 said...

Tiff, it sounds like you and Batman have thought this through and you have all your bases covered. I would go for it, especially since the doctor said you could and you have a good plan in place!!

Christina said...

Okay, now with the clarifications I think it's fine that you go. I'm sure you'll get out to stretch at lot (and pee!) so you'll be fine especially with your dog so you aren't totally alone. Hope you have a good time with your family!

My mom acts like I'm disabled now too. She doesn't think I should vacuum or walk up the stairs! (Not sure how I'll get to my 3rd floor apartment if I can't walk up stairs.)

Rikki said...

Oh my gosh I can't believe your IL reacted like that. I don't care what anyone says, being pregnant does not equal helpless and incompetent! As long as your doctor gave the okay screw what anyone else has to say(except Batman's of course).

I hope you have fun on your trip, be safe.

Ophelias said...

Have a great trip Tiff! I'm glad you can overcome your "handicap" long enough to make the arduous drive!

Mic said...

It sounds like you have it all planned out! Go! Have fun!
And tell your FIL HE is the dumbshit!

Katie said...

I completely agree with you here. Being preggo does NOT suddenly mean that you are incapable of of performing everyday tasks. Way to go, Batman, for standing up for you and talking to his parents! Hope you have a great trip! :-)

Chelle said...

I say go for it! Have fun!

Carbon said...

Sheesh, I hope you do get the apology you deserve.

I also hope you go and enjoy your peaceful uneventful drive. It sounds like you are being smart and making contingency plans. So, there's nothing to worry about aside from pain in the butt inlaws!

Driving around city streets is less safe than the freeway anyway!